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I see a world where women develop the creative habits and wellbeing to see their projects through.

In Tandem’s 2-Year Anniversary + My 7 Favorite Posts on Creativity

Just over two years ago, I stayed up late, writing and sharing my first blog post. I convinced myself it was good luck to go live on my daughter’s birthday. I’m not really superstitious. But, it felt kinda sweet to do it on a special day. The idea spurred me to bravery.

It felt vulnerable, yet exhilarating. I was encouraged as I watched the post views and comments come in. Many of my friends were up late too, as fellow parents carving out time for themselves!

These moments of creative risk fascinate me, both as they unfold in my own life and when I’m fortunate enough to watch them in others’ lives. It’s simultaneously scary and empowering to put our thoughts, ideas, products, and services out into the world!

As a feminist and an avid student of behavior change, I have a vision. I see a world where women develop the creative habits and wellbeing to see their projects through. Nothing excites me more.

My 2016 Successes:

I’ll take a moment to walk my talk. Here are my own successes of 2016. (I hope you’ll share yours in the comments below. Shed the minimizing modesty! You do so many cool things!)

My Personal Successes:

I deepened my meditation practice, my journaling practice, and my connections with friends (all required vulnerability!). I can say I really learned to feel my feelings with mindfulness. Regular practices were key, as well as working with a coach. It was a year of shifting from theory to practice, of walking my talk. I continued the things that worked well: the parenting approaches that suit my family; and the movement practices, like Pilates, Zumba, and yoga, that fuel me.

My Professional Successes:

I developed my coaching practice, working with several clients in beta mode. It’s been thrilling. I’ve met amazing people. I’ve honed many skills. I’ve loved the process of channeling my counseling and advocacy work experience (5 years and ~250 people!) into supporting women in pursuing their creative paths with wellbeing.

My style became a mix of creativity coaching and health coaching; I believe they go hand-in-hand. We gain meaning, health, and empowerment from pursuing both creativity and wellbeing in our lives.

So, I support women in the following: pursuing a creative discipline, developing a creative business, parenting creatively, and/or developing health and meditation habits. The process behind all of these is the same: you develop the skills to cope with overwhelm and anxiety, learn to internalize your strengths and accomplishments, set realistic goals and expectations, uncover small action steps, stay connected to your support people, and develop resilience and self-compassion.

A Coaching Series Giveaway!

In celebration of In Tandem‘s anniversary, I’m excited to offer two people a free six-session coaching series, to help you shift from overwhelm to clarity and self-compassion.  Continue reading

It’s human nature to turn away from suffering. These times call for a different response. A response also rooted in human nature, but one that arises intermittently across American history—standing in our discomfort as we sustainably continue the struggle for social justice.

As You Struggle to Swim This Current of Suffering, Seek Sustainable Social Justice

It’s human nature to turn away from suffering.

These times call for a different response.

A response also rooted in human nature, but one that arises intermittently across American history—standing in our discomfort as we sustainably continue the struggle for social justice.

I say “sustainably” because:

  • Momentum can be lost quickly.

  • Activists and helping professionals burn out easily.

  • American culture quickly steers potential allies back to consumerism and a model of perfectionistic parenting, rather than a life of giving and social activism.

For the most part, if you’re white, middle-class, able-bodied, heterosexual, and/or Christian, you have privileges—reserves of time, money, energy, and support. You can use these privileges as you educate and act in the name of equality and justice.

You have power and privilege to bolster you and amplify your voice; put them to good use and be ready to give them up. Now is the time to be a true and active ally for the long haul. Don’t lose this momentum in a week, a month, a year, ten years…

Sometimes, you may need to tend to your personal wellbeing and to take breaks from the stories of suffering you hear and read.

Please return soon, though. We need you.

Learn to hold the suffering of others and act to alleviate it.

If you’re a person of color, LGBTQI2-S, Muslim, with disabilities, without documents, or of any other oppressed group, I wish you justice, respect, safe spaces, and wellbeing. You deserve to have people fight for justice beside you, as well as on your behalf when you need to restore yourself after facing hate crimes and microaggressions.  Continue reading

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Must-Reads for Creatives: On Visibility + Vulnerability

This week’s Must-Reads for Creatives encourage us to take the beautiful risk of becoming visible and connecting with one another through our common vulnerabilities. I’m always pleasantly surprised by how exhilarating and rewarding the results turn out to be. 

This Week’s Must-Reads for Creatives:

How to Overcome Isolation (And Why You’re Doing It) >>>

Should You Start a Business? 51 Female Entrepreneurs Weigh In >>>

What Becoming Visible Has Taught Me >>>

Raising the Mindful Family >>>  Continue reading

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Must-Reads for Creatives: Seek Fresh Mindsets

Influential photographer Joel Meyerowitz calls photos “fragile paper timeships.” What a winsome phrase! This week’s Must-Reads for Creatives follow that spirit, and embolden us to seek fresh mindsets—toward our creative work, our fears, and even our place in the world. Huzzah!

This Week’s Must-Reads for Creatives:

Nurturing Your Creative Mindset >>>

Transform Your Fears Mindfully >>>

A You-Shaped Hole >>>

The MOMA Launches a Free Online Course, Seeing Through Photographs >>>

In March, Museums Promote Women Artists Through Social Media Campaign >>>

The Work of Isabella Stahl >>>  Continue reading

Must-Reads for Creatives 1.15.16

This week’s Must-Reads for Creatives are for the tender-hearted! They’re about the challenges in “adulting,” and the ways to clear self-doubt and self-blame. Most all, they’re about holding love, loss, and nostalgia within our creative hands, in that mindful moment before our thoughts are shaped into actions.

This Week’s Must-Reads for Creatives:

Adulting’s Not Always Easy. And Humaning Can Be Hard. >>>

How to Stop the Doubting Yourself/Quitting/Looking for a Magic Solution Cycle—Today >>>

On Self-Doubt >>>

Why “Sorry” Matters: How to Encourage Empathy and a Heartfelt Apology >>>

The Lenny Interview: Isabel Allende on Love + Death >>>

What a Time to Be Alive >>>

Fictionalized Landscapes Created From Strangers’ Old Photographs by j.frede >>>

What happens when you give 100 homeless people disposable cameras? True works of art. >>>

Beaming 93-Year-Old Gleefully Models Granddaughter’s Colorful Weavings >>>

You may also like: Must-Reads for Creatives 7.31.15 (on self-doubt + authenticity!)  Continue reading

Must-Reads for Creatives 12.4.15 - On Creative Resiliency - createintandem.com

Must-Reads for Creatives 12.4.15

This week’s Must-Reads for Creatives celebrate creative resiliency. Creative acts add meaning, mindfulness, and peace to our lives, and to the lives of others. Through creativity, we share our voices, experience relief, and find true connection—the very things our world always needs. 

This Week’s Must-Reads for Creatives:

How to Find Time for Creativity >>>

Art is an Amazing Way to Teach Your Brain About Mindfulness >>>

What’s in Your Toolbox: Lisa Hunt >>>

Embrace the Middle (And Maybe Even Enjoy It!) >>>

How to Raise an Emotionally Resilient Child >>>

The Art and Heart of Storytelling >>>

Women’s Views of Creativity, Culture and Identity >>>

Children Respond to Global Terrorism Through Art With a Message of Peace >>>

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Must-Reads for Creatives 9.5.15 On Radical Authenticity - In Tandem Blog - createintandem.com

Must-Reads for Creatives 9.5.15

This week’s Must-Reads for Creatives get real about the challenges and joys in your family, work, and creative pursuits. Feel what you need to feel, but take care of yourself along the way. That’s radical authenticity. I leave you with this quote from the always-inspiring writer, mom, and Zen teacher Karen Maezen Miller:

There is no secure or unchanging ground, and we make ourselves safe only when we see and accept the way life is. Utterly spontaneous and impermanent. When it is time to laugh, we laugh. When it is time to weep, we weep. We are cheated of nothing in life except that from which we withhold ourselves by ego’s narrow bounds. These bounds were made to break; indeed they must, if we ever hope to be whole again.

This Week’s Must-Reads for Creatives:

A Punk Rock Approach to Living the Life of Your Dreams >>>

You Are Not Too (Fucking) Sensitive >>>

A Guide to Dealing with Frustration & Disappointment in Yourself >>>

Why Making Art is the New Meditation >>>

Mindfully Creative >>>

Of Toddlers & Truth >>>

Battling the Mommy Guilt as a Work-at-Home Mompreneur >>>  Continue reading

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How to Reap the Benefits of a Creative Life

In Brené Brown’s new book, Rising Strong, she writes:  “Creativity embeds knowledge so that it can become practice. We move what we’re learning from our head to our heart through our hands.” She captures the essence of creativity. Through creativity, we turn our ideas—our theories—into practice. As we work on a creative project, we move full circle. We cycle through creativity’s many benefits: our own empowerment, the clarity that comes from self-expression, and the meaning that comes from making a contribution to the world.

Why Creativity Matters for Working Mom Creatives

Women aged 25-45 sit in a unique position. Most of us juggle parenting and work responsibilities. Creative pursuits can slip away amid busy lives. The underlying belief is: creativity is a luxury. It’s something we can return to when life slows down (and it doesn’t unless we choose to lighten our schedules, or let go of our unproductive activities!). The work/life balance dilemma carries within it the thwarted desire for self-expression.  Continue reading

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Must-Reads for Creatives 7.31.15

This week’s Must-Reads for Creatives get us ready to jettison some self-doubt and cultivate authenticity in our creative work. We don’t need to hide our perceived flaws. We can connect through our battle scars and shared emotions; they’re part of the creative process and they enrich our work.

This Week’s Must-Reads for Creatives:

Worried About What You’re Not Doing >>>

But It’s Not Unique… >>>

You Don’t Have to Shine >>>

Show Them Your Cracks >>>

Choice, Ambition, & Holding Your Fear in Loving Hands >>>

Why You Don’t Need to Leave Your Day Job to Live Your Life’s Purpose >>>

Three Reasons You Don’t Need to Have Everything Figured Out Before Starting your Business >>>

Zen Pencils Comic: Is That Not Worth Exploring? (Don’t miss this!) >>>

Enjoy It. Because It Goes so Fast. (In Illustrations) (For the parents.) >>>

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Must-Reads for Creatives 6.19.15 - In Tandem Blog - createintandem.com

Must-Reads for Creatives 6.19.15

This week’s Must-Reads for Creatives explore the line between comfort and discomfort. To expand and refine our creativity, wellbeing, and parenting, we may step out of our comfort zones. How do we do so with purpose and bravery (and without overwhelming ourselves)? The short answer is: with self-care and support.

This Week’s Must-Reads for Creatives:

12 Ways to Show More Self Respect >>>

The Thin Line Between Staying Uncomfortable & Creating Fear >>>

7 Productivity Tips to Beat Procrastination Once and For All >>>

For Adults, Coloring Invites Creativity and Brings Comfort >>>

The Over-Parenting Trap: How to Avoid “Check-Listed” Childhoods and Raise Adults >>>

The One Thing Entrepreneurs Look For the Most (Hint: It’s Not Money) >>>

To Be More Creative, Schedule Your Work at 80% Capacity >>>

Purpose Profile: Jennifer Lee & Artizen Coaching >>>

The Power of the Long Walk >>>

Scientists Define the 6 Criteria of Well-Being >>>

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